‘It’s not working out anymore. I think we should just move on.’- This simple sentence can turn your world over. No matter how clichéd it sounds, but breaks ups are painful. It’s like every part of your body is broken, and you got to just deal with the unbearable pain. Yes, it’s that hard. But, there’s no point in getting stuck in that phase of your life and become the next-gen Miss Havisham. According to movies, cathartic revenge plans, and night outs with your best friends are fun. In reality, drowning your sorrows isn’t a great idea. Healthily dealing with them is.
Your friends and family are there to support you. But, it’s only you who are going through real pain. At times, you may even feel completely helpless and think that you may never get past the suffering. We all have felt the same way at some point in time.
Just remember that you are not alone in this struggle. Look around and share your thoughts. Though it seems an unattainable goal, in the beginning, getting over a break-up is pretty much possible. It’s just a matter of time. Take a look at these following tips to move on with your life healthier, happier, and better.
What To Do After A Break-up?
It’s not easy to go solo when you have already planned a lot of things in a pair. From skydiving to adventurous trips, you may have had a lot in your mind to do with your partner. But hey! The break-up isn’t the last chapter of your life. We are past 2012, and the world isn’t destroyed. Change your playlist, get a haircut, or go on a solo trip to the hills. Trust me, these work. Here’s what to do after a break-up.
1. Unfollow, Block, Mute
No matter how much hate your ex right now, you can’t just refrain yourself from taking a look at his profile. In other terms, it is also known as stalking.
Rule #1: Don’t be a stalker. It just makes things worse. You look at his pictures and status updates and only feel bad about yourself.
Muster up the courage and hit the unfollow button now! Accept the fact that your relationship is over. Also, accept the fact that there’s nothing on Earth bigger than your own health.
If Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez can do it, why can’t you? Open your social media account now, search his profile, and hit the ‘Unfriend’ button. It’s time to rip the band-aid off the wound, girl. Only then you will know how break-ups change your personality?
2. Change your playlist
In my opinion, songs have the power to control moods. You may be in a good mood until a sad romantic track starts playing on your phone. Boom! All the happiness is gone in just a few seconds. You don’t have to welcome your bad memories through the songs. Create a break-up playlist with feel good and empowering songs.
You can pick ‘Stronger’ by Kelly Clarkson instead of ‘We don’t talk anymore’ by Charlie Puth. Taylor Swift can also help you out. Pick the right songs to feel the good things happening around you. You don’t need someone else to enjoy your playlist, right?
If required, delete all the sad songs from your device. Simply listen to the happy tunes, and you can also try dancing along. Remember how Meredith and Christina from Grey’s Anatomy danced it out to relieve the stress?
3. Line up for things you have always craved for
This tip is more relatable if you are the one who broke up. Things may not have been going well. You may have fallen out of love due to several circumstances. What is done cannot be undone. You have already done the deed; now there’s no looking back. Experts say that new experiences can cover up the pain that break-up causes. It is also an excellent way to get your minds off the break-up.
Say you are moving out after the break-up. Go shopping for decking up the new place, or you may want to put that swing at your balcony for a long time. This is the time. Call your best friends and plan a vacation to the Maldives. I just said it because there’s where I went after my break-up.
New experiences do not encompass only bigger things. You can also try out smaller things, such as signing up for an acting class. Well, I joined a cooking class, and now I have my own brand of customized cakes. You may also achieve your dreams; you never know.
4. Take your time to grieve
You have to be honest about your feelings. Grieve but don’t make your entire life only about that. Your break-up does not describe you. The pain may consume your happiness completely even before you realize how break-ups change your personality. Take your time to grieve your heart out. Bottling up your emotions is not really a good idea.
You are not a pressure cooker. You are a human being. Cry when you feel sad, but remember there’s a limit. In my opinion, it is okay to deny social invitations at times and sit back home in your sweatpants and enjoy an Al Pacino movie.
Eventually, your brain would seek pleasure over the pain. But, if you only feel the pain constantly, your mind would cultivate only the negative feelings. That’s not really a good idea. Seek professional help if the situation seems to be beyond your control.
5. Take care of yourself
Remember I said how break-ups change your personality? Well, they make you more cautious with who include in your life. They tend to compromise with your self-trust and confidence. You may no longer be surprised by disappointments. You can shed off the sad personality and reshape a strong one if you learn to take care of yourself.
Try out a new look. You can get a haircut, for instance. Go through motivational speeches or watch inspirational movies. Spend time with your best friends to enjoy life at its fullest and not to mourn over your lost relationship.
It is normal to miss the cuddles and spooning. Go on friendly dates without pushing too far. You don’t have to go in search of your soulmate anywhere. You can be your soulmate. You can be enough for yourself. Love yourself, and you will find this World to be a great place to live in.
Wrapping it up,
Self-dependence is very important, whether you are in a relationship or you are single. Love makes us do crazy things. But, you need to rejoice the singlehood phase of your life as much as you would do with your partner. Enjoy the entire bed to yourself as long as you don’t have to give a part of it to someone else. Good Luck!